Love. Love is…? How would you describe love? I don’t know. How does one go about defining something like love? I forget where I heard it, but there’s the old adage about it. It goes along the lines of “love is something you know you feel once you’re in it”.

Sounds like something you’d find in a fortune cookie right?

Get your My Chemical Romance playlist ready. I’ll try not to make this too much of a bummer.

I remember being a kid.

It was fun to be a child. Back then, all I worried about was if I would have enough time to play with my toys or if my mom would make me chicken nuggets.

Yeah, those dino ones were on fire.

Why am I bringing up childhood memories right now? Well, as someone who has been in love a couple of times in their life, I feel like it comes down to childhood. 

All of the times I have been in love, I feel like they all got one thing in common. Every single time, I felt like a little kid.

And there’s something so beautiful about that. Listen, I do my best. I try to always improve and be the best version of me that me has ever seen. In this new, sometimes poisonous age of everyone feeling the need to post a picture of the stupidest shit every five seconds, it’s refreshing to feel this way.

I believe that’s the crux of why love is one of, if not the most sought after feelings in the world. 

Alright maybe not the single most sought after feeling, but who knows. I have a good feeling if you asked a lotta teenage guys what they want, a good chunk of them would say to be loved.

At least a good amount of my friends and personal loved ones anyways. But I also know a few people who don’t care about having a girlfriend. Hell, most of these guys would say they’re scared of women.

Yeah I know this article is biased because I’m a straight dude, but at the end of the day, all I can do is write about my own raw experiences.

This has kinda gone off the deep end. Relevant though, because I’d say that is pretty common for love.

A lot of the time love can start in a really awesome and fun way. Love is the most addictive drug out of them all. But no interaction of the chemicals in a human brain feels as good as the one made by love.

It’s crazy. It’s intoxicating.

It can simultaneously make you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, while also hating their guts.

Toxic much?

What’s even crazier are the people who can’t stand not being in relationships.

When I say people, I mean me when I was younger. When I was a kid I wanted a girlfriend so bad. Then I got one. And it was fun, until it wasn’t. When it ended it freaking killed me. It took me so long to feel anything that wasn’t just emptiness from not having that person in my life. I knew people who felt the same way I did.

Both in wanting relationships, and feeling broken afterwards. How does one even deal with that?

Talking to people is honestly the best way to go when dealing with a breakup.

Talk to whoever you can. Spend time with friends and family and loved ones. They won’t be able to completely fix you though. When you’re cold and lonely at night, gripping your covers and pillows, you’ll still feel empty.

No matter how many rebounds you have, or how many distractions you fill every hour of the day with, you’ll still feel like there’s something wrong.

Life without that person you loved is scary. Whether it’s for a couple months, or a couple years. When someone leaves a mark on you, it doesn’t take a night or two to go away.

It can take a year or two or three or four or even more, or sometimes, it never does.

And that’s alright.

Whenever I see young kids wishing they’d be in a relationship, I tell them all the same thing. Being in love is the hardest thing you can possibly do in life. The risk to reward ratio is so high, but even with all of that, love is still such a special thing.

To love someone unconditionally, even when there’s a chance of getting completely shattered over the ending of that love, well, that’s the most beautiful thing you can do.

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