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Changing Your Thoughts

by | Oct 15, 2019

“You can’t do it.”

“If you fail, you are going to be a failure and an embarrassment to your family.”

“Remember how you didn’t pass the other certification you were studying so hard for? This is the same. You won’t pass.”

Welcome to my mind and the negative thoughts that I hear while I am studying for a certification in finance. These specific negative voices or lies can be very powerful if you give them the power. If no power is given, they are just simple thoughts that can be quickly replaced by positive thoughts. But it is hard.

Little People, Big Emotions

by | Oct 3, 2019

There I was, that mom with a screaming toddler on the floor of Chipotle. My blood pressure began to rise, I started to feel my facial pores open up, and could feel my oversupply of milk leaking. There I was, with two small humans and no spouse.

There I was, feeling like a failure.

Being a mother to a toddler is full of amazing firsts, a lot of joy, and a heart filled with love. It can also bring about challenging times. On top of those challenging times, let’s add in a new baby sister to the mix and a deployed dad. As a mother, you start to see these big emotions come through in your child—you want to help, but don’t know how. That night at Chipotle, I knew something had to change or it was going to be a long deployment.

Build Your Own Boat

by | Sep 30, 2019

Let’s pretend that you’ve just received orders to the East Coast and you have 30 days to PCS. You bring what you have and hope that you’re prepared enough for the move.

Now, let’s pretend that the week you arrive, there’s a hurricane. It floods your garage, tosses a trampoline through your window, and drops a tree onto your only vehicle. That is called unpredictability, and it’s most inconsiderate.

What if you could go back thirty days and do it all over again, knowing then what you know now? Would you do things differently? I bet you would. That is called preparedness. It is your best defense against unpredictability.

How to Find Your Worth When Your Purpose Shifts

by | Sep 21, 2019

Prayers for purpose and the faith to step into it didn’t turn out the way I expected.

At the end of 2014, I was finishing up graduate school as a therapist; my husband had recently returned home from his first deployment after our wedding. I had vaguely clear plans of becoming a trauma and attachment-focused therapist working with service members and military families wherever my husband happened to be stationed—if his orders from Fort Hood ever went through (side note: they didn’t, he retired from there, and we’re still here).

The 9/11 Generation

by | Sep 19, 2019

I think my peers and I, us “millennials,” are the 9/11 generation.

To most of us, this was the most formative moment of our childhood. Too young to understand the immense hatred that was brought to our doorstep that morning. And yet, we’ve spent the rest of our lives picking up the pieces.

The Molding of a Milspouse

by | Aug 30, 2019

A new and young milspouse was contemplating her options aloud, and I couldn’t help but feel excited for her. As wild of a journey as this life is, there are also many opportunities available to us. With those opportunities, however, come obstacles: small, big, and even monumental-sized ones.

If a spouse, especially one with children, is going to pursue anything, there are several questions they have to ask themselves.

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