Dear Mr. Dad: A few months ago, my husband got back from his third Army deployment—two in Iraq and one in Afghanistan. He’s been diagnosed with PTSD and is getting treatment, but I’m worried that his condition is somehow rubbing off on the rest of the family. Our children are having problems in school, I’m finding myself on edge and agitated all the time, and my temper seems to be getting shorter by the minute. I used to think that if we survived three deployments we could survive anything. But now I’m not so sure. What can I do?
Deployment
There may be no better time for empowerment than when faced with a looming deployment or when you are in the thick of one.
Join our Mission: Milspouse team as we share all our tips, lessons learned, best practices for coping, and our hearts in solidarity with you in all things deployment. Whether you are preparing for your first one or you navigating your 7th, we have the resources you need to thrive in one of the most challenging aspects of milspouse life.
Our resources span the gamut: From that first moment when your service member says “I’ve got news,” to establishing a battle rhythm in those first few weeks, to parenting solo, and to reintegrating after that homecoming kiss… We have resources to guide you every step of the way. We are raw, vulnerable, experienced, and ready to support you through this season!
How I’m Getting My Groove Back
It’s been two months since my soldier left for his yearlong tour. As soon as he left, I knew I would need a productive outlet. I’ve always been the creative type, and my current career reflects that. I’m only at work for nine hours Monday through Friday, which leaves the rest of the hours in the week for me to think about my soldier being away.
This Is How We Do It
As my husband’s unit prepares for their upcoming deployment, I am a hot mess of mixed emotions: fear, guilt, pride, sadness, happiness, residual anxiety from his last deployment, and most of all, relief.
Yes, relief.
You see, my husband was honorably discharged from service about four months ago, just as his unit was starting deployment preparations.
Sending I Love Yous From Afar
One of the most difficult parts of a deployment or TDY is being apart. Sometimes it’s hard to know how to stay connected or find new ways to say, “I love you” when internet connections are down or the service member is busy doing their job.
Here are some ways you and your service member can keep the feelings of love strong while apart:
A Year After Deployment
One year ago today, I welcomed my husband home from deployment.
I suppose, at some point in the near future, I should stop telling people that he “just got back from Iraq.” But I can’t. Because to me, it really does still feel like he just got back, and I’ve been waiting for that to change for almost a whole year now.
Pre-deployment Discussions You Must Have: Block Leave and R&R
You haven’t even left yet, so it may seem strange to think about leave. Lots of emotions can come into play at the last minute, so having this discussion before you leave will let you all consider the practical aspects.
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