There are countless relationships to balance in this milspouse life. Our kids, friends, neighbors, spouses coworkers, and of course, our service members!
Relationships need communication, compromise, and the ability to adapt. Command Team has decades worth of experience navigating these situations and share their professional and personal knowledge on various relationship topics.
Some topics include how to have thriving friendships, raise resilient kids, have a loving marriage and overcome obstacles with others and yourself. We want you to thrive in relationships because, in this milspouse life, we need support and community. So, join our Mission: Milspouse community and learn how to better relate to yours on this page.
April is the Month of the Military Child and that makes me happy!
During the past 12 years of helping military families stay connected and close, I’ve come to meet and cherish many military children. We’ve worked and played together, and I swear, their laughter is louder and their eyes are more “sparkly,” probably because they come from a proud culture.
But, I also know that their tears come from unknown places down deep.
I distinctly remember when Kevin took me on Fort Hood, Texas (our first non-training duty station), for the first time.
I was scared to death.
There are no perfect marriages out there. You may think that your friends have the perfect marriage, but guess what?
You’re wrong.
They still have conflict, but they figured out how to deal with it in a way that doesn’t tear the marriage or relationship apart.
Conflict is going to happen in everybody’s marriage at some point. The important question is, how do you resolve it? People typically deal with conflict in one of five ways.
One absolute necessity for making it through this roller coaster ride we call military life is meeting our battle buddies. These are the friends who, no matter what else is happening, will drop whatever they’re doing to help you out. These are the friends that you can call (and who can call you) at any time of the day or night just to talk to you or keep you from banging your head against the wall (much).
I’m an introvert by nature and was a very shy kid. The moves of military life forced me to learn how to connect and make friends. Believe me, I really had to learn how to do that—it didn’t come naturally.
I read books to learn. Books are my go-to answer for everything. I interviewed many military spouses to share what worked for them. When we ask any military spouse who has been through a deployment or other challenge of military life, “What helped you get through that time?” we always hear, “My friends, my battle buddies.” Spouses who have the hardest time with military life are those isolated by circumstances or who choose to isolate themselves. Research shows isolation can lead to depression. Plus it’s a dream-killer.
I was reading Honey, I Want to Start My Own Business by Azriela Jaffe and came upon the concept of relationship anchors. These are daily rituals that help you maintain your commitment to the relationship.
Anchors are extremely important when, between work and kids, events can quickly overcome you until neglect your spouse. Anchors can save you time and effort and simplify the way that you relate to each other while increasing your bonds and connections.
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