There are countless relationships to balance in this milspouse life. Our kids, friends, neighbors, spouses coworkers, and of course, our service members!
Relationships need communication, compromise, and the ability to adapt. Command Team has decades worth of experience navigating these situations and share their professional and personal knowledge on various relationship topics.
Some topics include how to have thriving friendships, raise resilient kids, have a loving marriage and overcome obstacles with others and yourself. We want you to thrive in relationships because, in this milspouse life, we need support and community. So, join our Mission: Milspouse community and learn how to better relate to yours on this page.
My soldier and I have been dating for more than two years now, with more than a year spent apart. While we did have a good chunk of time together before diving headfirst into a long distance relationship, we are constantly learning things about each other.
One of the most difficult parts of a deployment or TDY is being apart. Sometimes it’s hard to know how to stay connected or find new ways to say, “I love you” when internet connections are down or the service member is busy doing their job.
Here are some ways you and your service member can keep the feelings of love strong while apart:
Almost every day on one of the several military-focused websites, forums, and social media groups I belong to, I see mentions of how civilian family and friends “just don’t understand” military life. I’m pretty sure that at least once (and probably more!) in the years I’ve been married to my service members I’ve said the same thing.
So you’ve had the first two major discussions, and now we look at the art of staying connected with your loved ones while apart and helping your child(ren) cope. Let’s get started.
A hug. A kiss. A hello or a goodbye. A smile across the room. A wink. A loving pat. A snuggle or a cuddle. Watching a movie together. Sleeping in on Sunday. Doing a project together. These are all things that are taken for granted on a daily basis when couples are together, but when they’re apart, they become the things that are missed the most.
I was given a quote this week by my new friend, Susan: “Friends are your chosen family.”
This is when I started to really think about how military families socialize differently.
It’s true that friends are our chosen family. I’d bet that most of your friends are your military friends. Mine are. I choose them; they choose me. Somehow, in this odd and challenging lifestyle, we bond as if we were always together, like family.
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