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Watching my children making friends looks effortless on their part. They introduce themselves, and instantaneously, they’ve got a best friend. Me on the other hand, the uncertainty of the endeavor is always a challenge. It usually takes me a few months of getting the lay of the land to even attempt to make friends. If I do not have all my ducks in a row, it’s hard for me to concentrate on making friends.
My husband and I love watching shows and movies. I remember this being one of the things we even discussed in pre-martial sessions—how we liked uncovering the “story” together. But the longer we’re together, we also notice and poke fun at each other for little habits, and eventually, our habits overlap.
I want like to talk about something near and dear to my heart: Love Languages.
Love Languages come from the popular book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman and are described as how we receive love from others, focusing on the little things that make your heart and soul sing. It’s a topic my friends and I talk about often via text, and over time, I’ve started to become more curious about the love languages of others.
I look forward to holidays and celebrations, in large part because I know the holiday-specific meals are coming.
Or, I used to.
Military life has changed those meal traditions a bit. Often, my husband isn’t home, and honestly, he’s the better cook.
Now, six years into this life, I don’t mind. In fact, I’ve come to enjoy the spontaneity of holiday celebrations.
How did I, someone who loves to do certain things annually, come to grips with and come to appreciate that no two Valentine’s Days would be the same?
My pining for the past was redirected to appreciation for the present and eager anticipation for the future.
Close your eyes, and picture your perfect year with your husband.
Each of us will have different images in our heads. Maybe you’ll be traveling together, or maybe you’ll both be achieving career success. Maybe you’ll be spending time with your family, or maybe starting that new family. For the most part, your perfect year would include time together, right?
As I sat down to think about my relationship with my husband, I realized that this past year was literally what I would have imagined when I closed my eyes.
Confession:
The holidays are fast approaching, and I’m not feeling the holiday spirit this year. More like I’m feeling the Holiday Blues.
Anyone else with me? Here at Fort Wainwright, we’ve had more than two feet of snowfall in the last two days. Before that, the temperatures dropped to -30, then the next day turned around and it was nearly 30 degrees. It feels like we straight up skipped fall. It lasted less than a month, and that was back in August.
I blinked and suddenly winter was here.
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