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Relationships

There are countless relationships to balance in this milspouse life. Our kids, friends, neighbors, spouses coworkers, and of course,  our service members!

Relationships need communication, compromise, and the ability to adapt.  Command Team has decades worth of experience navigating these situations and share their professional and personal knowledge on various relationship topics. 

Some topics include how to have thriving friendships, raise resilient kids, have a loving marriage and overcome obstacles with others and yourself. We want you to thrive in relationships because, in this milspouse life, we need support and community. So, join our Mission: Milspouse community and learn how to better relate to yours on this page. 

Let’s Really Talk About Love

Let’s Really Talk About Love

by | Feb 22, 2020 | , ,

Did you know that in a recent Gallup Poll, only 8 percent of Americans look forward to Valentine’s Day? When you see all the floral arrangements, the cards, the endless rows of chocolates, heart-shaped soaps, candles, and sweet little gifts, you would think it is the day of all days. 

Well, apparently it isn’t.

When we think of Valentine’s Day, it conjures up this fantasy of love and romance that may happen for a brief moment in one’s life.

But, let’s face it—in reality, the Cupid moments of Valentine’s Day are for romance novels, country songs, and the movies.

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Mature Love

Mature Love

by | Feb 15, 2020 | , ,

It’s February, the month Valentine’s Day is celebrated. Romance is in the air.

I love reading clean romance books or watching romantic movies where the love just starts to blossom. It always reminds me of the time when I first met my husband. The feeling of butterflies in your stomach and excitement when he calls. As many of you know the honeymoon phase does not last long, then the everyday life hits, where you have kids to care for, work to go to, chores to tend to, deployments to survive, etc.

If I can be honest with you, sometimes I miss the honeymoon phase and compare the feelings that I had 18 years ago to now. Sometimes I feel like my hubby might not find me attractive or love me as much as he did when we first met.

But those doubts are wrong.

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Building Love Maps in Your Marriage

Building Love Maps in Your Marriage

by | Feb 12, 2020 | , ,

I love those first few weeks when I PCS to a new place. Undaunted by a lack of household goods or limited leave, I load my family up every morning to go out exploring our new home. Driving around the installation aimlessly but full of intention.

We speculate on which park we will enjoy walking to the most or which of a town’s kitschy diners we will frequent on Sundays after church. Taking it all in. Learning the main roads at first, the way to the commissary, the PX, then gradually picking up on the backways and roundabout shortcuts. By the time your stay is halfway up, you know how to avoid gate traffic and where to go to meet your friends for coffee or lunch. Though no matter how well you have become acquainted with it, the town you leave is seldom the same town when your moving truck arrived. The place you have all your socials closes down and is replaced by another restaurant, new boutiques open on Main Street. Of course, just before you leave, you begin discovering fascinating places and activities that have been there all along, but you never knew.

Our marriages are similar.

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Loving the Invisible Spouse

Loving the Invisible Spouse

by | Feb 7, 2020 | , , ,

Don’t let the title fool you, my husband isn’t really invisible. But I’m going to be completely honest here—it sure feels like it at so many points in this military life.

He’s a true superhero. He jets off right in the middle of a toddler meltdown to save the world. Who could be mad at that? People swoon over superheroes.

So why, at times, have I felt as though I spend more time with the bagger at Kroger than my own husband?

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Thoughts on Love: In Loving Memory

Thoughts on Love: In Loving Memory

by | Feb 6, 2020 | , ,

I never thought I’d find myself more than 8,000 miles away and caught up in 13 hours of time zone difference when it was time to say goodbye.

Truthfully, I never thought it’d be time to say goodbye… because I loved you. So, I didn’t say goodbye. I said all I needed to say.

In a video message—slightly longer than three minutes in length.

I told you I wanted to talk to you, and visit, and that I was still here. I was just really far away. I said to let me know if you wanted me to call you and when. I told you I was fine and going through my normal “I can’t believe we just moved again…” funk—and threw in a cuss word (I don’t know about everyone else, but I only cuss around people I love and trust). I told you I was so glad to know you had so many people showing up to offer love and support, and I told you I hoped that wherever you were was nice—a good place.

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I Wish I Was This Wise 50 Years Ago

by | Dec 12, 2019 | , , ,

I recently completed a walk across America to raise awareness and advocacy for our veterans. It was a 110 day walk, from May 15 to Sept. 1, from my home in Newburyport, MA, to San Diego, CA. I took only five days off to rest. You will undoubtedly hear more about my walk in the following months, because it was the one of the most meaningful events in my 72 years of life.

But, today, I want to talk about women who are so supportive of their husbands/partners during times of deployment. (I am well aware that many women are also on active duty and have partners supporting them, and I will write about that topic in the future).  

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