We all know that self-care is important. But, the reality is that we’re spouses, parents, co-workers, caregivers, and more. Most of us likely put everyone and their needs in front of their own.

It’s what we do. I’m guilty of it myself. 

Recently, I was chatting with a friend who admitted to being more stressed than usual. I asked her what she was doing to care for herself. She looked at me with surprise and said,

“I can’t afford self-care. I don’t have the time or the money,” as she rolled her eyes at me. 

I get it. Self-care in the movies is a luxury spas and fancy beach vacations. And while those things would certainly be a welcome distraction and indulgence, they’re not necessary.

Here are some ideas to take care of yourself. 

Skincare

Sure, a trip to a spa for a facial is lovely. But, that might not be in the cards due to finances or time. While it’s not exactly the same, you can treat yourself at home.

There are great face mask options on the market in a variety of price points that are geared toward your own skin type and issues. If sitting with a mask on isn’t your thing, get into a good skincare routine.

The habit alone can be very calming and gives you a few minutes of peace. 

Treat yourself

Treat yourself to a crafted coffee or other beverage — and savor it. If ordering out isn’t your thing, consider investing in a good quality machine to make your favorites at home.

Take the time to enjoy the beverage instead of slogging it down to get a caffeine boost. Or, maybe treat yourself to a flaky croissant or warm cinnamon roll from a nearby bakery. 

Set aside quiet time

My husband and daughter are night owls. Simply put, I am not. Saturday mornings are my time to enjoy a quiet house.

I get up well before everyone else, flip on the coffee pot, and watch the neighborhood come to life. I enjoy those first few sips of coffee while the sun is still rising and all is calm in our house.

I usually read and just enjoy the quiet. If you’re a night owl, maybe you can sneak in a little alone time after everyone in your home is asleep. 

Engage in hobbies

Make time for what brings you joy! With busy, everyday schedules, our hobbies and passions are often the first things to get dropped.

Especially for parents, you may find yourself dropping out of your own rec league soccer game to become a soccer mom on Saturday mornings, or something of the sort. 

Make time to engage in whatever you enjoy, or find a new hobby! If you’re a nature lover, take a walk or go for a challenging hike.

Start quilting. Join a book club. Become a whiz at refurbing furniture. My favorite is to get in a nice, long hike. Time doesn’t always allow for that, so sometimes a walk along the coast will have to suffice.

Whatever time and hobby it is, be intentional in carving out time. That could mean once a week, once a month, whatever, but schedule time!

Saying NO!

I’ve written before about saying no to things in order to say yes more often, including saying yes to time for myself.

As a recovering people pleaser, I totally understand that saying no and taking time for yourself is easier said than done.

Over the years, I’ve found that scheduling that time and having it on my calendar more regularly makes it easier for me because it’s become a habit. A habit that helps me avoid burnout. 

What are your favorite ways to engage in self-care?

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