To be honest, I didn’t know I was a caregiver. My husband is a combat-wounded Marine, and he was going through the military treatment facilities and then the Wounded Warrior Battalion at Camp Pendleton. Even during that time, I still did not realize that I was a caregiver – or that I would be for the rest of my husband’s life. It wasn’t until one day when I was in the waiting room at Balboa Naval Hospital and a lovely nurse asked me the question. She came out and asked, “Are you Stephen’s caregiver?” I quickly pulled back and brushed that off by saying “No, no, my husband is young, I’m just his wife.” Diplomatic and full of wisdom, she smiled at me and said, “You are probably both.”
Military Life
Oh… Military Life! This is likely what brought you to Mission: Milspouse in the first place. It is what binds the military community together with its wildly unique lifestyle.
Whether you are here to learn how to better live in this military life, how to support a loved one who is living the military lifestyle, or to see if this lifestyle is something you may like to be a part of, you have come to the right place.
Here at Mission: Milispouse the military lifestyle is what inspires us, drives our home lives, our moves, and our service member’s career, and gives us a camaraderie like no other. So welcome friend, take a seat and read more about all things that make us who we are and make the military lifestyle a life like no other!
Mini-Stories and Comedy
I have this running joke between my husband, my best friend, and myself. I like to think of it as “the importance filter.” It all came about when my husband told me he was in charge at work. Not like he’s running the whole Army or anything, but he was in charge of something that implied some pretty solid responsibilities. As he just casually shared this information mid-conversation, I stopped him and said, “I didn’t know you were in charge. That’s huge!”
“Yes, Wife, I’m kind of important.”
To which I replied, “Well, you could have told me! I tell you stuff all the time, little stuff, big stuff, important or not.”
And there began my realization that I often don’t have an “importance filter.” I love creating mini-stories—about things that shouldn’t even be stories. Little anecdotes that leave you thinking—“What’s your point?” These stories are often not important at all, but they are quite humorous.
Friendship: A Reason, Season, and a Lifetime
These are military friendships. They burn hard and fast. We don’t have time for long-term sustained experiences or the slow growth of friendship, and so our military life forces us to assume friendship “rules of engagement” and hard truths.
Dear Son: A Letter from the Revolution
There’s no argument that the historiography of war can best be studied through those who lived it. But, even a few months away from the battlefield can lessen the depth and intensity of the service members’ memories. Fortunately for us, many service members memorialized their experiences in the form of letters home to their loved ones.
5 Ways Military Families Can Help Heal the Nation
It’s safe to say that our country is hurting. We’ve had an entire year through a worldwide pandemic, political polarization, enormous numbers of grieving Americans, and feelings of impatience and anger as we seek our ideas of justice and freedom.
If you’re like me, you’ve been asking yourself, how do we heal?
Attributes of an Army Wife
Years back, when the movie We Were Soldiers came to theaters, I went to see it. It was tough to get through, as I closed my eyes in shock during one scene or teared up over another. But, I really resonated most with the character Julia (Julie) Moore.
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