When you move to obscure places with little or no support for your military unit, how do you find your community? Join Julie as she talks all things community.
Whether you are new to Reserve Spouse life or you have been around for a few years you might have begun to realize that we speak our own lingo that’s different from the active duty folks.
As the wife of a first responder and a military service member (National Guardsman), I’m accustomed to periods of time where I’m juggling the responsibilities of our household on my own. From preparing for 24-hour shifts to monthly drills and a month-long annual training over the summer, it can be a lot to handle.
Dearest National Guard spouse, I see you.
Your partner is gone and you may have wonderful friends, but none understand what you’re going through. Your kids have a slew of friends and they don’t have to PCS, but they also don’t have friends that understand why their parent is gone. Your family loves you, but they too do not comprehend the feeling of a spouse being away.
Don’t worry, I see you.
There was a time in my life when I knew nothing about the National Guard. All I knew was what I learned in history class about their role with the Little Rock Nine. I also knew that I saw them after tornado outbreaks in my state.
I see you now. I didn’t really see you or your pain before—I just saw a friend who was sad and hurt, but I didn’t fully understand. Now, my vision is no longer blurred, and I see all of it: the pain, the loneliness, and the anxiety.
Trudging through medical complications with a spouse in the military brings a whole new twist to this crazy ride.
Living in Alaska has been an amazing experience for me, but soon it will be time to say goodbye. If I’m being honest, I am heartbroken. I never imagined that I’d love living here, but I do, because Alaska is breathtakingly beautiful, even at -20 degrees in the dead of winter.
I joined the Army Reserve nearly four years ago, and I’m grateful for all the lessons learned and experiences that being a Reservist has brought me. I definitely would not be the person that I am today had I not made the decision to join right out of high school.
Here are a few lessons I’ve learned along the way:
This year, I’m making it my goal to find more balance between my civilian and military life. You see, I’m a civilian, but I’m also in the Army Reserves. It’s something I have to explain to people a lot when they ask me why I’m not available at certain times of the year.
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